Comments Policy

We loooooveee comments and want you to be part of the community. It’s our responsibility to make people who have contributed personal videos and comments, feel comfortable and safe. We expect commenters to do the same so that we can maintain an authentic, productive, wide-ranging discussion on the ways in which we view and project ourselves relative to beauty norms.

To help you out, here are some basic rules. If you have any questions, contact us at

Rules for Comments

Overall, we strive to create a forum for thoughtful, inquisitive, and informed commenting that moves discussions forward and helps everyone push their thinking. And, of course, we strive equally to create a community of people who like responding to and learning from one another. With that in mind, a few requests…

Read what people are saying before commenting.
Read what other people have said in the thread before your respond so that you don’t repeat views or misrepresent them.

Keep it relevant.
Consider what the original post is about. Is what you’re about to say relevant to the discussion?

Respect each other.
This is key, but what do we mean?

  • Disagreement is fine, but don’t use emotionally charged words when you do so. Saying things like, “Are you crazy?!” or “No offense, but…” does not move the discussion forward, so check yourself before you wreck yourself.
  • Choose your language carefully. Want to say “fuck” to add some emphasis to a point? Go for it. Want to say, “you’re a fucking lunatic” to a person? Don’t.
  • Hate the game, not the player. We like all sorts of diverse voices up in here. We like snark, too. But aim the snark at the issues, not the people on here.
  • Leave a comment and let it breathe. Let other people respond. Rinse, lather, repeat.
  • Think it through. Make sure your comment isn’t a) attacking someone b) defensive, or c) coming from a place that is inconsiderate of those who may be less privileged than you. If you’re unsure about your privilege, here are some helpful links: Derailing for DummiesChecking Your Privilege (via, How to suppress issues of race (via Coffee and Ink).

Don’t sell your shit.
We have enough problems with spam, so don’t add to the clutter by trying to sell your wares.

We reserve the right to not post, delete or edit comments to ensure these standards are met. If you have any questions, contact us at:

Thank you!